Monday, May 7, 2018

Where do I go from here?

So I am definitely not ready to date again but want to know where and how to find new people to talk to or who share the same interest?

So essentially what this boils down to is how do you adult in your late 30's. I am an okay guy but trying to meet new people my age that share the same interest is difficult at best. Most of the things I'm interested in tend to be the interest of younger people. Not that this is a bad thing, but I would like to find people closer to my age because then we would have more to talk about in general in addition to the shared interest. I do have friends, but the majority are not local and the few that are, are becoming parents for the first time or have younger ones at home. This is where I was 3-12 years ago, but now my kids are old enough to be involved or go to a friends house for a bit.

I know these are very much first world problems, but I'm not sure even where to begin. It would probably help allot if I was not so introverted around people I do not know or enjoyed going out more. I guess what I am really looking for is someone to watch movies and play video games with. But then again it may just be part of the cultural shift away from individual interactions with people in general.

If you have any feedback or suggestions I would be happy to hear them.

Monday, March 12, 2018

what to do now?

     So a little bit of history first. Me and my wife (Kier) are separated and likely going to be divorced in the not so distant future. We have a very amicable relationship now, but there are things we just could not provide for each other and the tension was starting to affect our kids so after a long set of discussions we thought it best to seperate for everyone's well being.

     Now with that being said there are times where I am lonely now. Now don't get me wrong I am in no way ready to jump back in the dating pool anytime soon, but I miss hanging out with people with similar interest. I have been head down in school, and then work that I have pretty much made my family my island, and now my island is splitting in two and i'm not sure what to do. I have a few friends from work, but most of them are getting or are into the starting a family phase and will be fairly occupied with that. However I would not mind someone to play games with and just hang out occasionally. I don't know the exact point of this post it is more of just venting and being frustrated with my current situation i guess and looking for helpful advice.